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Today’s love and financial lesson: diversifying.

In investment banking, this means the distribution of your wealth across a number of stocks to reduce your risk. In dating, we call it “not putting all your eggs in one basket.” And it’s damn good advice.

Instead of falling in love on the first date – and sitting around waiting to that one hot prospect to call – it’s wise to see a few people until your investment (that is, your date), starts showing a profit.

But it can be tricky juggling more than one man or woman at a time. Lucky you have this advice.

Casual Dating Decree #1: Set the Rules
By “dating” do you mean dinner, a movie, and a chaste good night kiss? Or does sex factor into the equation? How forthcoming will you be with your dates if they ask if you’re seeing anyone? Know what you want and stick to it; don’t make up the rules as you go along.

Casual Dating Decree #2: Play It Safe
Unbreakable, unbendable, unforgettable rule #1. If you’re sexually active with multiple partners, you’ll need to be hyper-vigilant in your self-protection. That means getting tested, being upfront about your health status, and using protection every single time. Lecture over.

Casual Dating Decree #3: Get Organized
You immediate challenge will simply be keeping track of your conversations and who you told what. Let’s face it, many of us have trouble remembering the things just one person’s bored us with, let alone two. Open dating requires a good memory and attention to detail. You have to remember which date has the parakeet, which hates seafood, and which one you already told your funniest stories to. Invest in a PDA or a calendar with wide margins for your notes on your favorite players

Casual Dating Decree #4: Compartmentalize
Keep your prospects as far apart as possible. That means, starting off, that you don’t dip from the same dating pools. Dating two coworkers, for example, has a way of going public. Then lessen the risk of a blown cover by keeping them separated. No bringing dates to the same beloved neighborhood hangout. No scheduling two dates in the same night. And when it’s sleepover time, always stay at his or her place (so you’ll never have to worry about Date #2 finding Date #1’s toothbrush).

Casual Dating Decree #5: Lay Bare the Facts
Obviously, we use the term “honest” loosely here. Dating two prospects at once-even if there’s been no talk of exclusivity (and there shouldn’t be, if you’re doing this)-requires you to be a little narrow in your candor. That said, keep the outright lies to a minimum. The less fibs you furnish, the less you have to keep track of, and the less suspicion you’ll raise.

Casual Dating Decree #6: Be a Good Winner…or Loser
Eventually, one player will become a clear stand-out. Do your victory dance, but be sure to shake hands and nicely say goodbye to the losing team. However, you should be prepared if you don’t come out a winner. What if you want to date exclusively, but the feeling isn’t reciprocated? Can you also handle your date dumping you in favor of someone else they’ve been seeing? Sometimes, even the hottest player strikes out. Dust yourself off and take to the field again. Remember, it’s all part of the game.

Source: By Laura Snyder

Categories: Dating Tips
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