Not telling the truth about your feelings in a relationship is like not watering a plant—you end up killing something that once was alive and growing. The inevitable result of holding back the truth from someone is that you hold back the love as well. After some time in a relationship in which the truth is not expressed, you will look back and wonder, “What happened to that juicy feeling? Where did the magic go?” The answer is that the love and magic are buried under piles of uncommunicated emotions.

You simply cannot repress your negative feelings (anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow) and expect the positive emotions to remain lively. When you numb yourself to your undesirable emotions, you are numbing your ability to feel positive emotions as well.

Suppressing negative feelings suppresses positive feelings as well.

The long-term effects of not telling the truth to yourself and others and of pushing down your feelings is that you lose your ability to feel positive emotions like joy, excitement, and passion. The dictionary defines passion as “an intense feeling.” Every time you suppress a feeling you don’t want to deal with, you are systematically limiting your ability to feel. Step by step you are killing the passion in all of your relationships.

Source: MarsVenus Coaching

Categories: Dating Tips
No Comments »