Celebrate Being Single: Duck Soup in Nelson, NZ. Mix & Mingle with us on the first Sunday of the month from 7.30pm at the House of Ales.

Amazing Night

Adrienne, Mixologist| November 15, 2009 7:00 am

Thanks for checking on the latest Duck Soup updates and events - contact Adrienne for more information 544-2088 or 021 480 212.

Thanks for an awesome time last night at Dusk Till Dawn. Over 170 singles (I stopped counting when I sat down for dinner…) grooving to the Nelson pulse on a Saturday night. Congratulations to our hosts The Free House, When In Rome, The Vic & Zatori where the welcome was warm and the drinks & food were delicious. I hope our out-of-town guests had a blast and will be back sooooon!

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The Free House from 5pm Saturday

Adrienne, Mixologist| November 11, 2009 8:38 pm

The response has been HUGE for Dusk Till Dawn on Saturday night – you’ll find plenty of new singles to meet when you come along to The Free House (95 Collingwood Street) any time between 5pm-7pm.

The registration process will be similar to a Duck Soup night where you collect a name-tag as you arrive. Please don’t be concerned about coming alone – most people will! You will also be given a flyer with a map and the following specials:

If this is your first experience at one of the Duck Soup singles events, please sign up for the mailing list and you’ll be sent an invitation to other opportunities to get out and meet some new friends.

By the way – The Vic will have the football on TV from 8pm if you’re interested in catching the score.

See you Saturday….
Adrienne, Mixologist

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Nelson Dusk Till Dawn on Sat 14 Nov

Adrienne, Mixologist| October 21, 2009 7:58 pm

Drinks & Dinner, Dancing & Dessert
Please schedule a BIG NIGHT OUT on Saturday 14 November when Duck Soup is combining with FindSomeone.co.nz for a Singles Dusk Till Dawn Party Night in Nelson. There are over 50 online dating singles coming to Nelson for the weekend from all over NZ. On the evening of Saturday 14 November Duck Soup will celebrate being single with drinks, dinner, dancing & dessert from dusk till dawn at four different Nelson venues.

To participate, you are invited to register on Saturday 14 November between 5-7.30pm at the FreeHouse opposite the Indian Cafe on Collingwood Street. This is the first drinks venue where you will collect your name tag and venue map showing where to walk to the other venues around Nelson. You will receive a discount coupon towards a drink at the FreeHouse then a $20 special meal including a drink at brand new Italian restaurant When In Rome on Hardy Street for dinner. There will be more drink specials at the Vic BrewBar at the top of Trafalgar Street while band Don’t Fret play – then a coffee & dessert treat for $10 at Zatori Chocolate Cafe on the Museum Corner. There is NO CHARGE to participate – however, you will be required to wear your name tag to distinguish you as part of the Singles Group – which will also help us remember your name!

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Richmond Duckling Dinner

Adrienne, Mixologist| October 18, 2009 8:07 pm

I’m arranging another ‘younger group’ Duck Soup dinner in Richmond this Thursday 26 November and you’re welcome to come along if you believe you fit into this category.

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Networking Night Sunday 1 November

Adrienne, Mixologist| 3:43 pm

Join us for social networking at the House of Ales from 7.30pm on Sunday 1 November. Celebrate Barry’s 5th year of operation at the House of Ales this month with a free glass of bubbles if you bring your special card from last month.

There will also be another special prize draw from the fans of our facebook page. If you have a facebook.com account, sign on and search for DUCK SOUP to find our page. Click the “Become a Fan” link and be in to win!

Don’t forget to schedule the Dusk Till Dawn Nelson singles night on Sat 14 Nov into your calendar…. it’s going to be a fun night (some of you may need a nana-nap that afternoon to keep up!). Registration is free and there will be special prices on drinks, dinner & dessert/coffee for those with a Duck Soup nametag on…. Interested in joining us…..? Register your interest here:::::

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Don’t Ditch Dating!

Adrienne, Mixologist| October 13, 2009 5:48 pm

I attended a restaurant opening in Nelson this week and met up with a Duck Soup regular who excitedly told me he may have

found someone – early days though. I was of course equally excited for him and asked lots of questions – where did you

meet? (online) What about her attacted you the most? (similar quirky sense of humour) etc. But then I started to hear

some warning bells and saw some red flags with other things I heard so my questioning took a different turn. I asked him

what he disliked most about the dating process…. and boy did things clear up for me!

This is a guy who is SICK of dating – dreads the first date and is totally over the whole concept. It turns out he has

had six dating partners since his marriage ended and now he’s ready to STOP dating and start a relationship because, in

his words, “six women should be enough to give me a good idea, right?”

Unfortunately I believe he is falling into a common trap and there are numerous reasons he may feel this way.

he may not believe he will ever find the ‘right’ woman

he may feel impatient with the dating process

he doesn’t understand the importance of dating to find love

he is a little shy and it’s hard to get out of your comfort zone

he doesn’t enjoy meeting new people

he doesn’t really trust new people

he doesn’t like or know how to flirt

he doesn’t think there are any decent single women around

All of these points are focusing on the negative! It’s the top reason people jump too quickly into relationships and

ditch the dating too soon. We forget that dating is a really important process for finding love that cannot be avoided.

One of the key things to attempt to do is find a way to ENJOY this process even if you don’t like every step. By shifting

your limiting belief about dating, you’ll attract better prospects – remember, like attracts like.

Hopefully you can start learning to enjoy meeting new people. The more the better! It can be really fun – you never know

who you might meet or what cool things you may learn. One of my now closest friends I met randomly whilst our kids were

playing at a park….

If you hold this same attitude that meeting new people is tedious, try turning this around. Make a challenge or game out

of it to see how many people you can meet in a month. Find interesting (& positive) details you’ve learned from each man

or woman you meet and don’t take the whole process so seriously! Dating is your interview process for the position of

your potential life partner. And it’s also important for YOU to interview for the position of THEIR life partner…

slowly, and gradually, you’ll build up an authentic picture of each person you date over time. Date as many people as you

can (without sleeping with any of them!) and someone will gradually become more compatible in your mind.

It may take some practice, but you can make this positive shift. When you are cheerful about meeting new people, you’ll

appear more confident and happy which will in turn make you more attractive. It’s a cycle of positive energy that builds

on itself…. and when you do meet the person who just fits so well into your life, you’ll be so glad you stuck it out and

KEPT DATING!

If you’re thinking – man, I can’t even GET a date, let alone have more than one – then consider online dating on

findsomeone.co.nz. If you need assistance to write your profile and choose a great photo, let me know. Alternatively, use

Duck Soup networking to ask someone if they would like to go on a date to learn more about them – but remember, not

everyone comes to Duck Soup to find love – many people are networking to expand their social lives without looking for a

partner. So be prepared for a “No, thanks” and keep trying! Every NO is a step towards a Y

I attended a restaurant opening in Nelson this week and met up with a Duck Soup regular who excitedly told me he may have found someone – early days though. I was of course equally excited for him and asked lots of questions like:

Where did you meet? (online)
What about her attracted you the most? (similar quirky sense of humour) etc.

But then I started to hear some warning bells and saw some red flags with other things I heard so my questioning took a different turn. I asked him what he disliked most about the dating process…. and boy did things clear up for me!

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Dating Over 40: Why Don’t Men Over 50 Want to Date?

Adrienne, Mixologist| October 8, 2009 4:43 pm

Yesterday, Louanne wrote me a note out of sheer frustration about dating over 40 – actually she’s looking for men in their 50’s. At one point we were discussing matchmaking services, and I mentioned to her that traditionally, men don’t sign on at the same rate as women, especially over 50. Somehow Louanne took this to mean that men over 50 aren’t interested in dating.

That’s definitely not what I meant at all.

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New FaceBook Fan Prizes

Adrienne, Mixologist| October 3, 2009 10:12 am

Duck Soup is giving away PRIZES on Sundays at the monthly mingle for fans of our new FaceBook page…. so become a fan to keep in touch with our events and perhaps WIN!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Duck-Soup/141701838475

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First Time at Duck Soup

Adrienne, Mixologist| September 30, 2009 9:49 am

I’m interested in feedback about your experience coming through the doors to a Duck Soup event for the first time. I’ve started giving newbies a special nametag sticker identifying them to promote empathy and perhaps some extra friendly treatment – is this working do you think?

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How to Start a Conversation with a Stranger to Get or Keep a Date

Adrienne, Mixologist| September 28, 2009 8:18 pm

You’ll probably run into many people throughout the course of your dating preparations that could be The One, but you’ll never know for sure unless you talk to them. Starting a conversation with a stranger can be daunting, but it doesn’t have to be impossible.

Every conversation runs its course within a similar outline: making first contact, introductions, speaking with each other, and then ending the conversation – hopefully with plans to meet again. To navigate these sometimes scary but usually rewarding waters, read on.

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